Ever since the recently passed HB2 in North Carolina which mandates that all people use the public restroom that corresponds with their birth sex, my social media has been inundated with questions about how I, as a transgender woman, feel about this. It’s only natural people are curious about my opinion on this topic considering I have a Youtube channel where I discuss trans-everything often.
The passing of this bill does not keep me up at night. The only thing that keeps me up at night is the stupidity surrounding arguments on both sides of the aisle. And it’s became clear to me that people who aren’t trans seem to get up in arms about it much more than we do.
The regressive left is harping on about businesses needing to open up a separate “gender-neutral restroom” for trans people. Bullshit. Although there is no real way to calculate the transgender population America (we are not included in the Census), it is estimated that we are 0.3% of the population. If a business chooses to allocate funds for separate bathrooms for such a small number of people, great! But the idea that they should be forced to do so is absurd. Leftists are also completely ignoring the fact that most trans people don’t want a third restroom. If you go through the trouble of changing your body and legal identity, why in the world would you opt into a non-gendered bathroom?
The Republican lawmakers on the other hand, seem to think that bathrooms are rape hot spots. If someone is morally bankrupt enough to commit an act of rape or sexual assault, do you really think a caricature of a man or a woman on the door is going to stop someone from entering to act it out?
So where does this leave me personally? I don’t live in North Carolina, but even if I did.. It would not actually affect me. Not only does my birth certificate, social security, and drivers license read “female”, do you think even if I hadn’t changed my paperwork I would be stopped and told to use the men’s room?
This is the part of this discussion that seems to be missing – most transgender people will not be affected by this law whatsoever. Does this mean that trans people who do not “pass” should be forgotten? Well, no. But does that mean we must cater to a minority within a minority? No.
Unfortunately there is a grey area that exists – What is the difference between someone who *says* they identify as a woman but looks completely like a man, and a trans woman who just unfortunately does not pass? To the eye, there is not much difference. But in my opinion, it is safe to say that if you make an effort to pass and assimilate, you shouldn’t have an issue. And even further, if you pass poorly but have your paperwork in order, nobody can tell you shit anyway!
So baring in mind that we are 0.3% of the population, only a fraction of that number will actually be negatively affected. This law only affects people who could potentially use the opposite gender’s bathroom as a space to enact sexual violence (although, again, this seems to be a nonissue as well. It strikes me as odd a rapist would use choose an extremely public space), or Tumblrinas who choose to identify as a different gender every other day.
It is insane to me to think that this is the focus of the left. Hey guys, how about turning our attention to the transgender women being stoned by Muslim refugees in Germany?
Nevermind.. That might be a little too real for you.